I love people watching. But then again, who doesn’t?!
I was recently enjoying a coffee at my downtown athletic club after a morning work out. I observed a few women and could not help but to overhear the following scene:
Incredibly naive woman: Do you have a few dollars? I need to pay for my parking.
Lying amoral woman: Don’t do that! Just say you ate here or took the class with me. That way the club will validate and you don’t have to pay. Don’t worry, they never check!
Incredibly naive woman: Wow, really?
Lying amoral woman: Yes, and don’t worry, I won’t judge (wink wink).
At this point, I’m thinking to myself, “gee, you won’t judge the woman for telling the lie that was your idea? How selfless of you. BITCH.” But rather than say anything, I simply continued to observe.
(note from author: In hindsight, I wish I’d have simply called these women out on the spot. Some people have a talent for calling out strangers. I have yet to master this art. Please contact me with advice on how to do so!)
As fate would have it, the three of us were on the same elevator to the lobby. Walking out, I got to witness the Lying amoral woman strut up to the front desk and nonchalantly tell a lie about how she was in the class. She effectively compromised her entire reputation to avoid paying a few dollars for parking.
While some may consider this to be a small or harmless lie, please realize it is anything but. This is flat-out theft. It would be no different from the woman reaching over the counter and taking $3 out of a drawer, or putting a few packs of gum in her purse without paying for them. Stealing is stealing and to make it worse, this was pre-planned deception. There was intent and premeditation. This is unequivocal.
There are no small or harmless lies. Being untruthful always has a negative impact on your life, regardless if you are caught in your lie or not. Take these women, for example. While they likely won’t get caught in their scheme to avoid paying their fair share for parking, they are breeding a culture of deceit that can only infiltrate their entire lifestyle.
There’s no getting around it – if you are willing to purposely be untruthful, no matter how big or “small” the issue, you can not and should not be counted on or trusted at any future point. You are compromising your dignity & your reputation. Ask yourself: would you rather be friends with a person who has shown their willingness to lie or a person who has a reputation for honesty & integrity?
Accepting any lies in your life, allowing others to influence you to lie, or worse, encouraging others to lie, is amoral at best and sociopathic at worst. Are you a liar? Be better.